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Thursday, September 30, 2010

Discipline Your Mouth

Discipline your mouth so that it does not betray your heart.

The power or words is incredible. When you speak something, you bring it into existence and put it into the universe for others to hear, dissect and take in. Words can help you and be affirmations in your life or they can bring you down.

I find this specifically important to a person who is trying to lose weight or quit smoking. Saying "I need a cigarette" brings forth that thought to manifest in the air and come to fruition.

The same can be said about how we speak of other people. Perhaps we are fond of someone but find ourselves talking them down when in the company of bad mouthers. Don't let the company of bad people make you speak about someone in way that doesn't reflect your heart. Now, if you just have a bad heart that is a whole other blog post. :-)

Try to always keep in mind that what you speak out of your mouth is a direct reflection to other people of your heart's intent. Try to only speak that which correlates with the person you are, or more importantly, the person you wish to be.

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

YouTube Tuesday: Be-Weave Hair Salon

Welcome to this week's edition of YouTube Tuesday. I came across this video over at College Curlies. I found this hilarious.

Complete LOL @ "real synthetic hair."

The woman, Laurabellbundy, has a couple of different videos making (good) fun of various types of people.

Monday, September 20, 2010

The thing about mistakes

The thing about mistakes is that the worst part isn't the actual mistake. We all make mistakes but it is what happens after the mistake that really counts.

Acknowledge the mistake. If you can't admit you were wrong when you know inside you are wrong this makes the mistake deeper than it needs to be. You'll never get over it and move on if you don't admit fault.

Don't repeat the mistake. Making the same mistake 3, 4, or 5 times just makes you insane. Only a crazy person does the same thing over and over hoping for a different result.

This is especially true when it comes to internal mistakes, bad decisions that no one else knows about. It is often the hardest to forgive ourselves.

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

YouTube Tuesday: Watermelon to the face

It is YouTube Tuesday! This week's video is ...crazy, that is the best way I can put it. It's a scene from the Amazing Race where a competition goes very wrong for one of the contestants and they get smacked, hard core, in the face with a WATERMELON.

I'd also like to point out that after a watermelon headshot like this, I'd dare my partner to tell me I had to keep going, is she nuts?!


Thursday, September 9, 2010

Dear Tyler Perry,

Dear Tyler Perry,

We need to chat for a second. On November 5th you will have a movie coming out based on something very close to my heart: Ntozake Shange’s stageplay “For Color’d Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Enuf.” I’m scared Tyler, real scared, because I don’t want you to mess this up.

For reasons that could go in another letter, more people know who Medea is than they know Ntozake Shange. You are taking an opportunity to bring this phenomenal story to the big screen and the main stream. I hope you don’t mess this up.

As far as casting goes, you’ve got a FIRE cast. If this movie is bad, I have to say I will only be able to blame you. You mean well Tyler, but you have made great actors look not so great in the past. These women are great, I hope you showcase them as such: Whoopi Goldberg, Anika Noni Rose, Phylicia Rashad, Kerry Washington, Janet Jackson, Thandie Newton, Loretta Devine, Kimberly Elise, Macy Gray, and Tessa Thompson. I do notice that there are more women listed here than are actually characters in the play, but I trust that you have crafted your characters wisely, I hope.

Now, the movie is coming out in November, so production is most likely all wrapped up by now, but I do have a few requests/hopes on the film:

No awkward Christian messages:
Now, I’m a Christian, so I’ve obviously got nothing against Christianity. But, from your movies from the past that I have seen, you do a really bad job of seamlessly weaving in a Christian theme or message into your stories. You try, but it just comes off awkward. And in this particular case you shouldn’t really be bringing in any messages that aren’t already in the story, just focus on the aspects of womanhood that it presents. If you take out the line “I found God in myself, and I loved her, fiercely,” we’ll probably have to fight.

Speaking of womanhood -

No gratuitous male presence:
There are no men in the play, so my preference would be to not see any men in the movie, it’s really not about them. Now from the cast list I already see that you’ve recruited Michael Ealy, Hill Harper, Khalil Kain, Omari Hardwick and Richard Lawson. I guess I should just thank the Lord that Shemar Moore isn’t in it. I hope these men have a legitimate role in the movie and aren’t just eye candy strewn about like the usual light skinned light eyed men in your films.

Don’t do me wrong Tyler,



Monday, September 6, 2010

Why did I go natural?

I was asked on formspring: Why did you go natural?

It probably started with the African American studies classes I took towards the end of my college career. From the classes I came into a consciousness of how deep hair hatred runs in the Black community. {Many women straighten their hair to conform to a standard of beauty that is not innately their own. Little Black girls grow up thinking that a relaxer is what they are SUPPOSE to do with their hair. Most don’t realize until adulthood that there is an option to not chemically alter their hair.}
It can easily be said that relaxing hair is a matter of preference, but the only way I could see to tell if I was conforming or preferring was to let the relaxer go.

Now that I am about 2 and a half years natural I love my hair, more than I ever loved it relaxed, and I feel like my hair is a perfect representation of ME. I also feel like I haven’t so much “gone natural” as I have just been myself. I live with my hair the way it grows out of my head, at this point, it seems like a simple decision.

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Let a blind person walk by

When you find yourself face to face, walking towards a blind person on the sidewalk what do you do? You step aside so they can go by because you know they can’t see you, they can’t see where you are coming from.

This has to be the same method we chose in life when someone is (metaphorically) blind to our point of view. There are people who you can’t make see things the way you see them. You don’t stand in front of a blind person and tell them to see the world as you see it. You move and step aside. When you’ve come to the point where you cannot open a person’s eyes to what is best for you, for them, for a situation, etc., you’ve got to step aside and let them continue to walk.

If the way they see things is best for them, then they will walk smoothly. If not, they will have to navigate life’s potholes and sidewalk cracks themselves.
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