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Wednesday, October 15, 2014

My Birth Story: The Best Laid (Birth) Plans of Mice and Men


Alternate title: When we plan, God laughs

For those who don't want to read the long drawn out birth story, the jist is: Pretty much everything happened the opposite of how I planned. But each step of the way I was able to remain calm and happy and accept God's plan. I'm proud of myself for not breaking down as my plans broke down. At the end of it all, I have been blessed to be the mother to the most beautiful healthy little girl and I know that everything happened how it was meant to happen. 

I knew when I wrote my birth plan that everything was subject to change and that labor and delivery could not be bent to my will. I decided early on in pregnancy that whatever would happen, would happen, but I would have my preference for how things would go in a perfect world. I wanted: 

Breastfeeding Only
NO episiotomy 
Delayed cord clamping 
Little to no intervention
Ability to move around freely during labor
Limited cervical checks

Well, things pretty much went the EXACT OPPOSITE! 

It all started with being a week past my due date. My OB decided it would be best if I was induced. I went in for my induction on Wednesday October 8th. Induction meant: Intervention, multiple cervical checks, and being on monitors for both my contractions and the baby's heartbeat, which meant mostly being confined to the hospital bed. So just that easy, 3 of my hopes went out the window.

While I woke up early on the morning of the 8th, around 3am, with contractions, I wasn't in active labor so the induction was still on the schedule. I received a dose of Misoprostol (drug that encourages the cervix to dilate) approximately every 4 hours beginning at 3pm. Being stuck in the bed the most I could do for coping techniques was breathing and visualizations. I had planned to be able to use my birthing ball, have Hubs administer counter pressure, and be able to walk around. But as you can see, my plans were not what was happening here.

After the third dose of Misiprostol, in the wee hours of the morning, things were starting to get REALLY REAL. The contractions were harder to breath through, and the immobility was starting to kill me. At this point I'm sure I started driving the nurses crazy because I began getting up and walking, sitting in a chair or on the side of the bed, and doing lunges, all of which made the monitors disconnect, but I HAD to move. Then around 5:30am my water broke, and things got REALLY REALLY REAL. The pain was more than I could manage any longer. The majority of it was pressure in my back. I requested an epidural. Shortly after the epidural my cervix was checked and I had gone from 3cm to 7cm in about a HALF HOUR.

At this point I figured pushing shouldn't be too far off, just 3cm to go. Then nurses started gathering around my monitors. They had me move from one side to the other. They weren't happy with how the baby was tolerating the contractions. My blood pressure went low. Her heart rate went high. Fifteen, that is not an exaggeration, FIFTEEN nurses, doctors and surgeons rushed into the room and said I needed to have a c-section. As they were telling me this they were simultaneously cleaning off my stomach and handing Hubs a set of scrubs to change into. I felt like I was in the Twilight zone. Within minutes I was in the operating room, and shortly after that, Sage was HERE. Our beautiful Sage with a head full of hair. 8lb 15 ounces, 20 3/4 inches long, born at 8:45am on October 9, 2014.



It took them only a matter of minutes to get her out. Closing me up took much longer, mostly because the surgeon was pretty much teaching a C-section class, explaining things step by step to a student or maybe more than one student, I couldn't see. Delayed cord clamping with a c-section just isn't feasible, as you don't want your abdomen sitting open for longer than it has to. So that was another hope dashed.

But absolutely none of these things mattered because we had our baby!  All of her testing came back with her passing with flying colors except her blood sugar. Her blood sugar numbers were not what the pediatricians wanted to see. So after we'd already been comfortable in our room, getting use to our family of three, she was taken to the NICU, having her blood sugar tested every hour. Every hour she was also given formula. So that effectively crossed off every item on my birth plan list. Technically, I didn't have an episiotomy, but I didn't have a vaginal birth so that doesn't count.

She was returned to our room the next morning, with her numbers much improved, and we only had to supplement with formula for that day and she's been all breast since then. She had her first doctor's appointment yesterday and is doing GREAT. She is a happy, healthy, wonderful, beautiful baby and I just can't get enough of her. Everything happens for a reason, and we both came out of labor and delivery as healthy beings, which is all that matters.





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  1. The L&D nurse in me knows exactly what that strip probably looked like to prompt a rapid delivery. I'm glad this ultimately turned out well. I can tell you that birth plans are nice, but they hardly ever work how you want, but if the outcomes is good, it's all good. Congratulations to you, mama.

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    1. Yea something was wrong. I don't know what ultimately, but they also said my cervix was swollen and her head was swollen upon my last check, not sure what that indicated. I didn't even care, they said they could have her here in the next 15 minutes, I was like let's do it! C section recovery isn't fun at all, but she's totally worth it.

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  2. Giving birth never goes the way you think it will ��. Happy everyone is doing well though. Congrats!!!

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  3. I'm sorry things didn't go the way you wanted, but you have the perfect attitude. So happy everyone is home safe and sound <3

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  4. So happy that you and baby girl are both safe, happy and healthy!!! Can't wait to meet baby girl

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    1. Thank you! We'll definitely have play dates in our future!

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  5. Oh LaNeshe, I enjoyed your story! I'm so happy Sage is here and is as beautiful and healthy as can be, despite the route that she took! I'm also happy that you're healthy! Feel free to contact me for advice regarding anything, especially breastfeeding!! I'm serious! I know you are enjoying her with every ounce of love within you. Please get some rest while you can. Don't worry about anything, but focusing on Sage. Her first 2 weeks will be the most important for you and her!

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  6. Baby Sage! She's a cutie!! Congratulations mama! :)

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  7. aww! congrats on having your baby. you both look great!

    xx
    Paige

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  8. That was a powerful testimony of trusting God and not letting disappointments steal your joy. It must have shocking to have to hear about a C-section and then be insurgery so quickly. Praise God they were on the ball, and didn't waste time.

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    1. I don't know how I could have gone through it all without faith that his will was being done!

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