Saturday, July 11, 2015

The Beauty of Disconnecting

I've been thinking lately about the need for an app that can let people know on every digital medium I can be reached, that I am unavailable. Something that could with one button tell everyone on all four of my email addresses, Facebook messenger, Text message, phone calls, etc. that I am currently disconnected. I live a life that often requires that I be reached mornings, nights, and weekends. That is fine, I'm involved in a lot of things that require various people be able to reach me, but at times I just want to completely disconnect. 

I had many plans for today. This is my last free Saturday until August 29th as I have a few things going on and rehearsals for an all Black presentation of Othello I am producing and acting in (if you're in Philly, mark your calendar!) I wanted to do housework, among other things. We ended up spending the day at a friend's home and hanging in their pool most of the day. It was amazing, and just what I needed. 





After those pictures were taken Hubs got in the pool too and we all hung out, completely disconnected, and it was amazing. Where I usually would have been often checking my phone for e-mails and messages, I just relaxed and enjoyed myself. I was too far away to even see my phone lighting up, and didn't care to check it. Four adults, three children, and two dogs, just enjoying each other's company for a few hours. I immensely enjoyed that period of disconnection. 

Things happened while I was in pool mode, there are a few things I need to handle now that I'm settled home this Saturday evening, but the world didn't fall apart while I was away. I need to disconnect more often. 

P.S. - It was Sage's first time in the pool and she dug it. We got this baby float, which was nice because she could float around by herself and we didn't have to hold her the whole time. It also has a shade part but we didn't use it because we were under the shade of trees.

When is the last time you disconnected?

Monday, July 6, 2015

Nursery Tour

You may recall when I talked about possibly starting to vlog. I attempted to start out by just using my iPhone, but I just don't have enough space on my phone for extensive videos. At first I purchased a GoPro, but the one I got I felt like didn't really work for vlogging. I found the sound quality to be really lacking. So I returned it, cashed in a bunch of Amazon and Discover points and got a Panasonic HC-V270. I'm still getting used to it, but I really like it. 

For my first non-iPhone vlog, I bring you, a tour of Sage's room: 


Wednesday, July 1, 2015

LaNeshe Recommends: Baby Gear

You can get real carried away real quick when it comes to baby stuff. When we were purchasing stuff for Sage I tried to do a lot of research and read a lot of "things you need, and things you don't need" lists. I can honestly say we haven't purchased anything that I thought was a waste of money. Here are some of my baby faves when it comes to large pieces.

Graco Pack n' Play with reversible Napper and Changer $80



We've gotten a lot of use out of this, and I think we will for a while longer. When Sage first came home she would sleep in the napper portion in our room. When she transitioned to sleeping in her room in her crib at night, we moved it to the living room and put her in it for naps. Once I went back to work I brought it with me to my office so she would have somewhere to play. When she got more mobile (I caught her planking on the side of it lol) I dropped the mattress down to turn it into a playpen, and now that is how she plays in it. This is also really good for travel to have something easy to setup for baby to sleep or play in while away. 




This is the chair we have for Sage to eat from. You can hook it onto any chair, so we co-opted one of our dining room set chairs for it. It's a simple list seat. Everything is plastic so it wipes down easily. She's very comfortable in it. 




I got this $120 swing from Ross for only $70. I was SOOO excited when I found it. It was the only one, and I was like 7 months pregnant, but I carried that sucker by myself out to a cab cause I could not pass up the deal. Plus, it was jungle themed like her room. This was a great buy. This was a lifesaver. In those early days the only way I could get Sage to take a nap in a place that wasn't on my chest was in this swing. "Swing nap" was a coveted thing for us. That's when I would eat with both hands, and take a comfortable nap myself. It rotates so it can swing both side to side and front to back. I was sad when she got too heavy/mobile for this swing, but it's made it's way to a new home. 




There came a point where Sage wanted to be sitting up when she was lounging, rather than reclined like in the swing, but she couldn't sit up on her own yet, so we got this chair. It actually came the day all three of us were battling a stomach bug. She loved it, thank God, because it gave me somewhere secure to put her while I laid around praying for us all to get better. She rarely eats in this, but it does have a snack tray. 

What Baby Gear is on your MUST HAVE list?



Sunday, June 28, 2015

Baby Loves to Stand (video) + 9 Months as Momma Thoughts

The fact that I grew this little human inside of me is still surreal to me. She is amazing. Sometimes I look into her eyes and see myself, and that is a crazy feeling. I love her. All day, all night. I watched her sleep one morning for 30 minutes. I became overwhelmed with emotion seeing her pull herself up and stand by herself (with the assistance of the side of her crib). I’m amassing toys and clothes to giveaway that she’s too big for. She can sit up unassisted for longer and longer. She is harnessing the power of leverage to get herself where she wants to go. She’s a good little traveler, she people watches or falls asleep.

The rate of her growth and change is overwhelming at times. She’s going to keep changing. It’s only been almost nine months and she’s such a different little girl than she was just three months ago. 

Here new found talent is standing, and she can't get enough of it. I'm pretending that she won't walk soon, but that's probably unlikely. She's already taking little steps towards cruising around the coffee table. Here she is effortlessly standing in her crib: 




I'm still breastfeeding. Keeping up with pumping sucks, but when she’s taking it from the tap she has no problem. We do have to supplement with the occasional bottle of formula at daycare if I can't pump enough. She’s also eating pureed baby food and table food. In recent weeks her favorite thing has been corn muffins, and her least favorite thing has been salmon. 

We're still cloth diapering, and even though she has real poops now it still isn't too much to manage diaper laundry. The only thing I've changed from my original cloth diapering routine is throwing the poop in the toilet before I put the dirty diaper in the diaper bin. 

Her little personality comes through more and more each day. Since she's getting around the house more we've had to utilize saying "No" often when she's reaching for something she shouldn't touch. When we say 'no' she makes the cutest little pout, it's too much lol. We're currently working on getting over her fear of the blender. 

Well, let me get back to following her around the house trying to catch her when she falls. I'll do that as long as I can for my BabyCakes. 

Thursday, June 11, 2015

Should women propose to men?


The above photo has been all over my timeline today [description: a woman is down on one knee proposing to her boyfriend]. The women on my timeline are NOT having it. There are basically two camps: the ones who feel like a woman proposing to a man is indicative of her behaving "like a man" and doesn't allow her partner to be "a man"; and the ones who feel this goes hand in hand with wanting equality and women's rights. 

I don't think this comes down to challenging one's man (or womanhood) or even equality. I think it really comes down to individual relationship preferences. If she thought her proposing was a challenge to his manhood, she likely wouldn't have done it, and he wouldn't have said yes. Their relationship seems to be working out just fine for them. 

I'm annoyed when others try to push their relationship standards on to others. If a couple wants to fall into the traditional roles of the man and the wife, good for them. If they want to deviate, good for them too. This couple's relationship does not threaten anyone else's ideal of what a relationship or proposal should be. If you are a man and want to propose to your woman, find you a woman who that works for. If you are a woman and would never propose to your man, find you a man who that works for. 

Also this concept of "if a man wants to marry you he will propose to you, you shouldn't propose to him because he isn't ready" is flawed. First: there is so much pressure on proposals and engagement rings that I feel like while a lot of men are ready to make their lover their wife, they feel like they need to save for a billion dollar ring and a flash dance at Disney World for their proposal to mean something. Second: men propose to women all the time when they aren't actually ready for marriage. There isn't a difference in them being pressured to propose vs. accepting a proposal. If they aren't ready, they aren't ready regardless. 

Don't let societal pressures or norms dictate how you run your relationship. Happy Thursday!

Do you think it is appropriate for women to propose to men?

Friday, May 29, 2015

Mommy Travel Wardrobe

This week I've had to take Sage with me to work every day (babysitter's spring vacation). This has forced some very specific stipulations on my wardrobe.

Shirts can't be sleeveless.

I wear her in a Tula through our journey that includes a train, a subway, a bus, and a walk. I don't want my armpits sweating directly onto the Tula lol, so I must have sleeves.

Shirts with tank tops underneath.

Since I'm still nursing I need to be able to use the two shirt method when I feed her, since I don't use covers.

Shirts with smooth fabric, no embellishments up front.

During the day or during our commute she'll fall asleep on my chest, so I don't want any rhinestones or beading  sticking her in her face.

Nursing necklace.

My Vintage Honey Shop nursing necklace comes in handy. She has something to chew on/play with while we ride.

We're about to take a three hour Amtrak journey shortly. Wish us luck (and send prayers for an open wheelchair accessible seat, and a happy baby) !


Wednesday, May 27, 2015

Vacay Every Day with Palm Breeze



Technically summer doesn't start until June 21st, but we all know Memorial Day is the unofficial start of summer. Winter was cold, and long, but the thoughts have long since faded away as we move about in much warmer temperatures. This past weekend, not only were we celebrating the unofficial start of summer, but also my Mom's husband's birthday. A barbecue was certainly in order. A tropical birthday BBQ!

I sent my husband out BBQ supply shopping while I cleaned up the deck for our first gathering of the season and one of the things on the list were the new Palm Breeze Sparkling Alcohol Spritz. 


Once the cleaning was done and the fellas were manning the grill I finally got to sit down and taste the Palm Breeze Sparkling Alcohol Spritz. We picked up the Pineapple Mandarin Orange flavor. It is very tasty and refreshing. For the first time in a while I was able to sit back and relax, soaking up the sun. The three day weekend provided a well needed mini vacay. 



I definitely want to try out the other flavor Palm Breeze has, Ruby Red Citrus. Palm Breeze is a flavored malt beverage (FMB), which basically means it’s an alcoholic drink made with a malt base, like beer. They were a great choice to have on hand while entertaining. Everyone liked the Pineapple Mandarin Orange flavor, even those who usually stick to less fruity beverages.


Definitely try a pack for your next party or gathering, and if you happen to be in Austin RSVP HERE for a cool Palm Breeze/Blo Bar event. 


I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.