I'm getting the hang of vlogging/editing. I can really only record when time allows. Life has been SUPER busy, but the show that I produce in the summer ended Saturday, so Sunday I had some family time and a leisurely trip to Target and I got to record a bit and try my hand at putting together a vlog.
We went to Target for one thing... but no one ever leaves Target with one thing lol.
Babycakes is 10 months (plus one week) old! Time has really flown. At this stage in her life she loves playing. We basically put her down on the floor and let her have at it with her toys. We learned that she loves balls after getting her the Baby Einstein Activity Balls, so I started searching for baby ball pits.
Her play area is already taking over our living room so all the options I found seemed to take up too much space for my liking. Then it dawned on me, just buy the balls and put them in her pack-n-play! So we got one pack of these phthalate free, BPA free, crush proof balls which has 100 balls. Hubs had the brilliant idea to take the ease of the ball pit one step further buy just putting them in a plastic bin we have from Ikea, that way we can just close it up and store it when she isn't playing!
We ended up buying one more pack of 100 of balls to fill the bin up more. 200 is a little TOO many balls, as they overflow a bit, so 150 - 175 is probably the sweet spot. Either way, we have a happy little baby in her ball pit!
Note: The IKEA bin is the brand SAMLA and the dimensions are 78x56x18 cm
I've been thinking lately about the need for an app that can let people know on every digital medium I can be reached, that I am unavailable. Something that could with one button tell everyone on all four of my email addresses, Facebook messenger, Text message, phone calls, etc. that I am currently disconnected. I live a life that often requires that I be reached mornings, nights, and weekends. That is fine, I'm involved in a lot of things that require various people be able to reach me, but at times I just want to completely disconnect.
I had many plans for today. This is my last free Saturday until August 29th as I have a few things going on and rehearsals for an all Black presentation of Othello I am producing and acting in (if you're in Philly, mark your calendar!) I wanted to do housework, among other things. We ended up spending the day at a friend's home and hanging in their pool most of the day. It was amazing, and just what I needed.
After those pictures were taken Hubs got in the pool too and we all hung out, completely disconnected, and it was amazing. Where I usually would have been often checking my phone for e-mails and messages, I just relaxed and enjoyed myself. I was too far away to even see my phone lighting up, and didn't care to check it. Four adults, three children, and two dogs, just enjoying each other's company for a few hours. I immensely enjoyed that period of disconnection.
Things happened while I was in pool mode, there are a few things I need to handle now that I'm settled home this Saturday evening, but the world didn't fall apart while I was away. I need to disconnect more often.
P.S. - It was Sage's first time in the pool and she dug it. We got this baby float, which was nice because she could float around by herself and we didn't have to hold her the whole time. It also has a shade part but we didn't use it because we were under the shade of trees.
You may recall when I talked about possibly starting to vlog. I attempted to start out by just using my iPhone, but I just don't have enough space on my phone for extensive videos. At first I purchased a GoPro, but the one I got I felt like didn't really work for vlogging. I found the sound quality to be really lacking. So I returned it, cashed in a bunch of Amazon and Discover points and got a Panasonic HC-V270. I'm still getting used to it, but I really like it.
For my first non-iPhone vlog, I bring you, a tour of Sage's room:
You can get real carried away real quick when it comes to baby stuff. When we were purchasing stuff for Sage I tried to do a lot of research and read a lot of "things you need, and things you don't need" lists. I can honestly say we haven't purchased anything that I thought was a waste of money. Here are some of my baby faves when it comes to large pieces.
We've gotten a lot of use out of this, and I think we will for a while longer. When Sage first came home she would sleep in the napper portion in our room. When she transitioned to sleeping in her room in her crib at night, we moved it to the living room and put her in it for naps. Once I went back to work I brought it with me to my office so she would have somewhere to play. When she got more mobile (I caught her planking on the side of it lol) I dropped the mattress down to turn it into a playpen, and now that is how she plays in it. This is also really good for travel to have something easy to setup for baby to sleep or play in while away.
This is the chair we have for Sage to eat from. You can hook it onto any chair, so we co-opted one of our dining room set chairs for it. It's a simple list seat. Everything is plastic so it wipes down easily. She's very comfortable in it.
I got this $120 swing from Ross for only $70. I was SOOO excited when I found it. It was the only one, and I was like 7 months pregnant, but I carried that sucker by myself out to a cab cause I could not pass up the deal. Plus, it was jungle themed like her room. This was a great buy. This was a lifesaver. In those early days the only way I could get Sage to take a nap in a place that wasn't on my chest was in this swing. "Swing nap" was a coveted thing for us. That's when I would eat with both hands, and take a comfortable nap myself. It rotates so it can swing both side to side and front to back. I was sad when she got too heavy/mobile for this swing, but it's made it's way to a new home.
There came a point where Sage wanted to be sitting up when she was lounging, rather than reclined like in the swing, but she couldn't sit up on her own yet, so we got this chair. It actually came the day all three of us were battling a stomach bug. She loved it, thank God, because it gave me somewhere secure to put her while I laid around praying for us all to get better. She rarely eats in this, but it does have a snack tray.
The fact that I grew this little human inside of me is still surreal to me. She is amazing. Sometimes I look into her eyes and see myself, and that is a crazy feeling. I love her. All day, all night. I watched her sleep one morning for 30 minutes. I became overwhelmed with emotion seeing her pull herself up and stand by herself (with the assistance of the side of her crib). I’m amassing toys and clothes to giveaway that she’s too big for. She can sit up unassisted for longer and longer. She is harnessing the power of leverage to get herself where she wants to go. She’s a good little traveler, she people watches or falls asleep.
The rate of her growth and change is overwhelming at times. She’s going to keep changing. It’s only been almost nine months and she’s such a different little girl than she was just three months ago.
Here new found talent is standing, and she can't get enough of it. I'm pretending that she won't walk soon, but that's probably unlikely. She's already taking little steps towards cruising around the coffee table. Here she is effortlessly standing in her crib:
I'm still breastfeeding. Keeping up with pumping sucks, but when she’s taking it from the tap she has no problem. We do have to supplement with the occasional bottle of formula at daycare if I can't pump enough. She’s also eating pureed baby food and table food. In recent weeks her favorite thing has been corn muffins, and her least favorite thing has been salmon.
We're still cloth diapering, and even though she has real poops now it still isn't too much to manage diaper laundry. The only thing I've changed from my original cloth diapering routine is throwing the poop in the toilet before I put the dirty diaper in the diaper bin.
Her little personality comes through more and more each day. Since she's getting around the house more we've had to utilize saying "No" often when she's reaching for something she shouldn't touch. When we say 'no' she makes the cutest little pout, it's too much lol. We're currently working on getting over her fear of the blender.
Well, let me get back to following her around the house trying to catch her when she falls. I'll do that as long as I can for my BabyCakes.
The above photo has been all over my timeline today [description: a woman is down on one knee proposing to her boyfriend]. The women on my timeline are NOT having it. There are basically two camps: the ones who feel like a woman proposing to a man is indicative of her behaving "like a man" and doesn't allow her partner to be "a man"; and the ones who feel this goes hand in hand with wanting equality and women's rights.
I don't think this comes down to challenging one's man (or womanhood) or even equality. I think it really comes down to individual relationship preferences. If she thought her proposing was a challenge to his manhood, she likely wouldn't have done it, and he wouldn't have said yes. Their relationship seems to be working out just fine for them.
I'm annoyed when others try to push their relationship standards on to others. If a couple wants to fall into the traditional roles of the man and the wife, good for them. If they want to deviate, good for them too. This couple's relationship does not threaten anyone else's ideal of what a relationship or proposal should be. If you are a man and want to propose to your woman, find you a woman who that works for. If you are a woman and would never propose to your man, find you a man who that works for.
Also this concept of "if a man wants to marry you he will propose to you, you shouldn't propose to him because he isn't ready" is flawed. First: there is so much pressure on proposals and engagement rings that I feel like while a lot of men are ready to make their lover their wife, they feel like they need to save for a billion dollar ring and a flash dance at Disney World for their proposal to mean something. Second: men propose to women all the time when they aren't actually ready for marriage. There isn't a difference in them being pressured to propose vs. accepting a proposal. If they aren't ready, they aren't ready regardless.
Don't let societal pressures or norms dictate how you run your relationship. Happy Thursday!
Do you think it is appropriate for women to propose to men?