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Wednesday, March 23, 2011

I am a Woman

I am a woman. I am kind, nurturing, and caring. I am feminine, yet strong. I am beautiful. I am fierce. I am determined. I am sexy.

I am a woman. Which means that 7 days out of the month I am a woman on her period, or a woman about to be on her period. This means my hormones are going bazurk, I feel like I'm huge, my uterus hurts, my back hurts, my head hurts, chocolate is my new best friend, I am starving- but I have no appetite, and not to mention, I am bleeding from my nether-regions. This is what you can do to support me during this time:

1-Do not mention my period: Yes, I may be on my period, or about to start it, so I do NOT need you to suggest "are you on your period?" or "is you're period coming?" If it is, I'm likely to hit you. If its not, I'm likely to hit you for suggesting it is.

2-Be nice: Extra nice! I'm probably feeling the worst I've felt since 28 days earlier. You don't have to wait on me hand and foot, but perhaps ask if I need anything, or if there is anything you can do for me. Yes, this comes every month, but it doesn't get any easier to deal with.

3-Don't laugh: Cramps HURT, and at times it takes some weird body positions to get any relief. Whether I am doubled over in fetal position or standing on my head you better not laugh!

4-Leave me alone: If I have no other obligation in the day, I want to sleep. If you have already completed step 2 of these instructions, your job is done, unless otherwise specified. No need for any more attention unless I ask for it. Let me sleep. The best part of the day when I am on my period is the time when I am not awake.

5-Hold me: No, this does not contradict number 4. This is where the unless otherwise specified comes in. If I call you into the room, or ask you to hold/hug me, hold me for a little while, give me a little kiss on the cheek or forehead, rub my tummy, etc . Once again, this is if your presence is requested, if not, just stick with number 4.


Sunday, March 20, 2011

The Awkward Files: Audition Waiting Room

I'm pretty sure the audition waiting room is one of THE most awkward situations one can find themselves in. I had two auditions today which made this ever more apparent.

You've got people walking around contorting their faces and making strange sounds intertwined with "red leather, yellow leather" or some other various tongue twister.

"Break a leg" is never more trite than in the audition waiting room. Either you are saying it to someone you don't know as a courtesy, but you don't mean it, OR you are saying it to someone you DO know, and are generally friends with when you are not competing for a part, in any case, you still don't mean it lol.

I guess what you really mean is "Break a leg... but not better than me lol"


Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Getting Over Slavery

I was asked on my formspring: Do you think African-Americans will ever get beyond slavery? It ended so long ago yet it seems like it's still the "big elephant in the room" in a lot of situations.
I actually think African-Americans are over slavery. You don’t hear (or at least I don’t) Black people complain about being slaves in the past. What has not been gotten over as of yet is ALL THE OTHER ISSUES THAT THE ENSLAVEMENT OF BLACK PEOPLE CAUSED.

Slavery is long gone, but what isn’t gone is:
-A feeling of displacement because of the fact that Blacks were kidnapped from their homelands and brought to this country. (I expanded about that feeling in another post)

-A feeling of superiority for some Whites AND a feeling of inferiority for some Blacks because of the number of years the “White People > Black People” system was in place. Many times this is not a conscious thing on either side. All people are still breaking out of that system.

-The fact that White is still seen as the standard, and anything other is sub. It just is. I talk about this a lot in terms of women’s beauty and hair, and the White standard of beauty, but this really extends to many facets of life. An example is how people, White, Black, and any other race, will proclaim that President Obama has not held up to their standards, and therefore, they don’t want another Black president. Inherent in this statement is that a White president is standard, and therefore, even the bad presidents we’ve had in the past, if White, were part of the norm and didn’t have to prove their worth. President Obama is having to prove his worth as a BLACK President, not just as a president. Which leads me to...

-The feeling that as a Black person they must prove themselves while other groups don’t have to. This also includes the feeling of representing their race as a whole although they are an individual person.

Slavery is over, yes, but the IMPLICATIONS of that time period for all people are not yet surpass-able. Mainly because there are still people on both sides of the fence (White and Black) who hold on to it. White individuals who still feel overtly superior to Blacks because at one time Blacks were considered only part of a human, are just as much a part of the problem as those Black people that some would say “just can’t get over slavery.”

There are Black people, I think I would include myself in this category, that are fortunate enough to not really have to deal with the above implications in a crippling capacity. But I can’t look down on others who are in circumstances (career paths, locations, etc.) where they must face the fact every day that they are still considered “less than.”

Thursday, March 10, 2011

If you weren’t so fast, you wouldn’t be so slow.

“If you weren’t so fast, you wouldn’t be so slow”

I tweeted that yesterday morning, and realized it made perfect sense in my head, but probably is confusing to others. The best way I can explain it is with examples:

We all remember our parents calling young girls “fast.” With these girls pre-occupation with sex, makeup, boys, etc. at a young age made them slip up in scholastics and actual learning/planning for the future. Those girls where the ones behind, or slow, when it came to graduating from college and making plans for the future. Essentially, being “fast” in one area effectively slowed them down in greater development toward adulthood.

There is also the person pursuing something (a business proposition, a production, etc.) before they really have the means too. The means could be time, money, or just mental/emotional stability. Without the proper means, the result is being halted or regressed because of improper planning/resources. In the end, time is spent and wasted trying to regain footing that was lost by coming through the gates too fast.

The moral of the story is that rushing into things too quickly can put you in a two steps forward and three steps back situation. Take things at your own speed, not anyone else's. Be honest with yourself about the speed you can handle so that when you do take off, you won’t have to look back.
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