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Tuesday, June 29, 2010


I'm coming to the end of a 3-day weekend in which I was/am sick the whole time. As such I watched a lot of television. In particular three shows that have had quite an effect on me. Secret Diary of a Call Girl, Being Human, and Doctor Who. What has been the effect of these shows you ask? I've somehow acquired a (bad) British accent that I have to consciously get rid of after watching one of these shows! I sound even worst than Eliza Doolittle in My Fair Lady. Suddenly bloke, limey, shag and blimey are part of my vocabulary. It is quite strange. But I LOVE these shows.

Dr. Who - BBC

That is "The Doctor." This is a cool sci-fi, semi-drama series. The Doctor is quirky and funny, and his red headed sidekick Amy Pond is fiery and feisty. The premise is that The Doctor (who has manifested in many faces by multiple actors over the years) travels through and manipulates time helping humans and aliens in his TARDIS (an acronym for Time And Relative Dimension In Space), which normally appears to be a blue 1950s British police box.

Being Human - BBC

So a ghost, a werewolf and a vampire walk into a bar.....well actually, in Being Human they all live in a house together. The series takes a look at these three former humans as they struggle to balance their new state of being and their human selves, while trying to hide who they are. I love this show. The plot is great and the characters and character relationships are great. This is probably my favorite show right now.

Secret Diary of a Call Girl - Showtime

That is..well, it depends on how you know her. In her "real" life, that is Hannah, but when she's working, that is Belle. Belle is a call girl, escort, prostitute, she call herself all of these things. I like this show. It takes a really humorous look at sex, while still having a story line that is engaging. The different relationships in this -Hannah's and Belle's- really delve into human relationships in an interesting way. I love the main actress, Billie Piper.

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Ridiculous News Story of the Day

Teacher with Rabbit Phobia to Sue 14-year-old for Drawing a Bunny
(news source)

A teacher with a phobia of rabbits is suing a 14-year-old girl for compensation after she drew a bunny on the blackboard. The teacher, from Vechta, Germany, says she was traumatised by the drawing, and claims the girl knew it would terrify her. She had transferred to the school where a student from her former school had just become a student and told her new friends about the teacher's fear of rabbits.

"We did it for fun and out of curiosity", one of the girls told a court,"We wanted to see if she would really freak out." School officials removed her from the class and now the teacher is seeking compensation for her terror and her loss of earnings.

O.k. while the tweens were pretty mean for taking advantage of the teacher's fear, they DREW a rabbit on the blackboard. They didn't bring in a rabbit, or even a real picture of a rabbit, but DREW one. I don't want to discount the teachers fear, because we all have our thing, but this just seems ridiculous. I could even see the teacher calling for action within the school, detention, suspension, etc. The student should learn that it isn't right to take advantage of people in this manner, but to SUE the girl? For terror and loss of earrings? Really? It doesn't seem worth the lawyers fees. If a LIVE rabbit was involved, or maybe even a picture of a real rabbit, I might feel differently.


Thursday, June 17, 2010

We just don't think

I've found more people's motive for wearing a seat belt is because of the motto "click it or ticket," rather than the fact that they could be propelled through a windshield if they were to have an accident. I've also found more people drive hybrids to save on gas than to contribute to a healthier environment and decrease the nation's dependence on oil. In Philadelphia recycling increased because households would be fined if the trash department could clearly see a recyclable item in with their regular rubbish.

It seems there always needs to be a monetary incentive for a person to do what is really best for the greater good or for their safety. Why is that?

My hypothesis is that something that taps our wallets is more concrete to us than having an accident and being thrown for your car, or completely ruining the environment. We don't think it will ever be us to have that kind of accident. We don't think our use of gas could be part of a dependency that causes gallons of oil to ruin the ecosystem. We don't think throwing all of our trash away together and not recycling could be contributing to huge landfills and negative affects on our environment, animals and water system. We just don't think.

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Nobody is perfect

Someone submitted a resume and cover letter to me for consideration for an internship. The cover letter had spelling and grammar mistakes and the resume was unclear on the person's skills and experience. Under normal circumstances a business would see something like this and just toss it, without a second thought, and never contact the person. My boss decided to call them to let them know we wouldn't be considering them for the position, and to suggest that they might want to read over and make some alterations to their resume and cover letter.

After my boss let them know that we wouldn't be calling them in for an interview, and in the middle of her giving them some tips on improving their resume and cover letter for their future submissions, the person hung up.

This was a student in college who apparently could not handle criticism and didn't want to learn how to improve their very unprofessional resume and cover letter.

Not many people would have even took the time to call someone who didn't spell the word “internship” correctly in their cover letter, but my boss took time out of her day, for a person who can't handle instruction.

I feel like we (myself included) are so caught up in our self bubble that we don't allow anyone's opinion inside, even if they are opinions that could help us be a better person. We've got to learn to accept criticism and instruction, taking what we can use and discarding what we cannot, but at least hear people out...especially when you are looking for employment.

Monday, June 14, 2010

It will be a journey

I don't mean to stay on the natural-hair-blogging-bandwagon too long, but I'm answering the formspring questions given me, and they want to know about natural hair :-D. The latest question I've gotten is How long have you been natural, and what are your tips on starting?

I got my last relaxer before my college graduation. So I've been natural a little over 2 years. The biggest tip I can give someone on starting out on their natural hair journey is that it will be hard. There will be times where you feel like you cannot manage your hair. You will be dealing with a texture of hair you've never dealt with before. There will be days where you feel ugly. You will be seeing yourself like you've never seen yourself before. You will miss your relaxer sometimes. You will look at old facebook pictures and wish for the hair you once had. But that will all pass with comfortability and confidence.

That might not be every person's experience, but that was my experience. I am SO happy and SO confident and comfortable in my hair now, and I love it, but this wasn't always so. I had times when I reached out to my natural friends feeling the calling of the "creamy crack." You need support. Just like any other transition in life, a hair transition will be hard and you need supportive people around you.

As I've mentioned before, research the best ways to take care of your newly-natural hair. Be informed about techniques and styling. I've written tips on taking care of your hair but the biggest tip I can give is to understand that a lot of the change in a transition to natural hair is going to be inside. You will be looking at yourself differently, and that can be hard, but in the end it is SO empowering and rewarding.

Sunday, June 13, 2010

Top 3 Spies of 2010

Michael Weston - Burn Notice

A current USA show set in Miami, Burn Notice showcases Michael Weston's uncanny ability to disguise himself as pretty much anyone, and escape even the most dangerous of situations through wit and little bit of brute force.

Jack Bauer - 24

Everyone's favorite action hero, Jack Bauer. Although he is usually tracking down terrorists as himself, he has undercover spy abilities, as well as the ability to break a bad guy's face....with his feet.

The Leverage Team

A current show on TNT, I've never seen this team fail at a con. This group of professional thieves robs from the rich, and gives to the poor. They trick their target into doing what they want through an elaborate system of costumes, sets, fake identities, and technological prowess.

Who am I missing as a Top Spy of 2010?

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Nesheaholic Natural Hair Tips

I was asked on formspring for natural hair tips.

Although I have been natural (haven't had a relaxer) for 2 years, I just recently started to really delve into how to care for my hair now that I am no longer chemically treating it. A huge resource for me has been the Black Girl with Long Hair blog as well as youtube videos with styling and care techniques. The products that I am loving are those from the Carol's Daughter line. The internet is definitely the best friend of any newly naturals.

Some of the basic tips I have learned are:
  • Do not use products with mineral oil or petrolatum. You would be amazed by how many of the products we usually use on our hair have these in them. Mineral oil and petrolatum clog the pores, not allowing for growth, and it also coats your hair, but doesn't penetrate to actually moisturize it. Instead, use natural oils on your hair, olive oil, shea butter, jojoba oil, etc.
  • Comb your hair with a wide tooth comb only. Combs with tiny teeth will just get tangled in your curls.
  • Use sulfate free shampoos, or choose not to use shampoos at all, and wash your hair with conditioners or natural soaps.
  • Moisturize, moisturize, moisturize!
  • Cover your hair at night with a satin cap, or use satin pillow cases. Hair can get caught and break off in cotton pillow cases.
  • Comb your hair while wet for de-tangling, and start at the ends of your hair, and work your way up to the roots.
And this has been an episode of Nesheaholic Natural Hair Tips :-D


Monday, June 7, 2010

Why am I upset?

Rapper Slim Thug wrote an article for Vibe online in which he put down Black women, saying that they can’t be trusted and generally are gold diggers and aren’t down for their man like white women are (his examples of “down” were cooking for him and doing what he tells them do to). This isn’t really about his post so much as it is about the various comments I’m seeing around the internet about reactions to his post.

A lot of people are saying things like “Why are Black women so upset? Why do you care about the opinion of a man who obviously doesn’t respect you and doesn’t want to be with you anyway? Why am I upset? Because I am a Black woman and while I try to pick and chose what I take offense with, when someone of semi-famous stature blasts a group that I am representative of, it is going to get under my skin, at least a small bit.

I feel like his comments are offensive and stereotypical of both Black and white women, painting them as ignorantly subservient. Reinforcing these stereotypes do no one any good. So while I’m not saying everyone go outside and burn his CDs, as an advocate for people, I can’t help but be a little upset by his remarks.


Friday, June 4, 2010

Dear President Obama, do not "go off!"

On a CNN program director Spike Lee stated (in relation to President Obama's action regarding the oil spill in the Gulf) "If there's any one time to go off, this is it, because this is a disaster." A CNN writer went on to say:

Lee's sentiment echoes the frustration of people who want to see Obama get loud, take charge and inspire them like he did during his presidential run. Recalling then-candidate Obama's ability to rouse crowds into chants of "Yes, we can," presidential historian Douglas Brinkley said, "There was a feeling he was going to be one of these presidents that moved us with words the way John F. Kennedy and Ronald Reagan did in recent decades." (source)

My personal opinion is that we don't need to see President Obama "go off," nor do we need him to grace us with his wonderful oratory skills. What exactly is a speech from him going to do about the gallons of crude ruining parts of our eco-system forever? Why do people want him to talk and make them feel better? I'd rather not see his face or hear his voice at all and know that he is behind the scenes trying to figure out a solution to this disaster.

I like Spike Lee, but the last thing we need right now is President Obama "going off." DOING is going much farther than him TALKING in this situation. True blame for this catastrophe can be spread between many individuals, I just pray that things can be resolved as soon as possible.

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Emotional Responsibility

One of the big things that I think on in my relationship is the concept of emotional responsibility. Emotional responsibility has two sides.

I am responsible for my husbands emotions.
Meaning, as his life partner, I cannot ignore his feelings or emotions, even if they have nothing to do with me, or if there is nothing I can do myself to change the situation. It is important in our relationship, and any relationship, that no one feels like their emotions are being ignored, even if the other person can't relate or doesn't agree with the level of emotional reaction.

on the other hand...

I am responsible for how my emotions affect my husband. He loves me, and because of that he can't help to be upset by my upsetness, or saddened by my sadness. Because of this, even in the craziest fits of emotion I have to keep him and his feelings in mind, and determine whether my tantrum over there not being any chocolate chip cookies left at Wawa is worth straining both of our emotions.

Both of these sides apply to both of us, and to both sides of any relationship.

It is a big step to make as a person to take on the 'burden' of another person's emotions, and learn to evaluate your own for the sake of another person. I believe this happens on a small scale with friendships and even work relationships.
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