Tuesday, December 28, 2010

If President Obama Can, You Can To

It's been floating around the news that President Obama has quit smoking. Many people feel that this isn't really "news." While that can be debated, I think it does give encouragement for people trying to quite smoking. If the President of the United States can quite smoking, you can too!

Lets examine why people smoke. Among other reasons, a lot of people smoke to relieve stress or cope with things in life. I don't think any of us have a job as stressful as the President of the United States, if he can deal with all that comes with his position without cigarettes, you can too.

Now, I've never smoked cigarettes, so I can't speak first hand about the addictive nature they have, but as we move towards the era of New Years Resolutions, if you are resolving to quite smoking, I encourage you whole-heartedly. :-D

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Well Dressed Couples

What we see on the outside, doesn’t necessarily reflect what happens on the inside, but I don’t think there is anything better than a couple with a strong relationship, other than a couple with a strong relationship out together dressed nicely. It’s just beautiful. A man and a woman, dressed up, out on the town, doing big things. #awesomeness


Tuesday, December 21, 2010

My thoughts on "Don't Ask, Don't Tell"

I was asked on formspring: What do you think about the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy being repealed over the weekend?

(While I have the feeling that formspring sent this question to generate conversation and that it isn't from a real person, I'll answer it anyway lol)

It is about time this policy is repealed. It is quite easily one of the most discriminatory practices I can think of. It has been standard procedure that employers cannot deny employment based on sexual preference, but our military didn’t have to act accordingly? I am happy that this big step in homosexual civil rights have been taken.

As far as what this means in the field, 35 other countries permit gay men and women to serve openly in uniform, one being the U.K. I’ve read that although resistance was even higher there to repeal DADT type policies, there was little to no disruption in battle effectiveness, lets hope for the same with our troops. There was great support from U.S. military for the repeal, so I think our chances are good.

There are people who are scared, who anticipate backlash in the military towards homosexuals who are not allowed to express who they are. You know what? They are right to be scared. There will be backlash. There will be backlash like there has been after any other step in the direction of civil rights. There will be some backlash because there are people who hate homosexuals to the core of their being, for a reason I cannot understand. As sad as it sounds to say, there will be retaliation, but every movement needs their “Rosa Parks” if you will. Some generation has to be the generation to initiate change, and deal with all that that change means, both good and bad.

On a final note, as far homosexual relationships between military service people I don’t think there will be any higher instance of homosexual relationships or “encounters” than there is heterosexual relationships.

Monday, December 13, 2010

Christmas and Commercialization

I was asked on formspring: Do you believe Christmas is too commercialized these days?

My answer is yes, it’s as commercialized as anything else in this world. The key is, we as consumers are responsible for remembering the true meaning of Christmas, and not be overcome by a spending frenzy. We as consumers need to remember the birth of Christ, the spirits of giving and thankfulness, and embracing family and friends during this season. Honestly, it isn’t Target’s job to remind you what the season really is all about, their job is to provide you with products should you see fit for presents and decorations to fit into the way you celebrate the holidays.

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Sunday, December 12, 2010

Cruise Highlights

I haven’t been home more than 7 hours from my cruise and I definitely miss it already.

Cruise Highlights (in no particular order)

1. Shower: The shower in our stateroom was superb. The water pressure was excellent, the water temperature was perfectly heated, and the steam it produced was awesome. I definitely took THE best showers of my life this past week.

2. Food: I can’t recall a time when I was actually hungry on the cruise. So much food, 24-7, and delicious food at that. My favorite on board this cruise and the last was the chocolate melting cake with vanilla ice cream.

3. Towel animals: One of the things I love so much about cruising with Carnival is the towel animals left in the stateroom by the stewards each night. My favorites this time around where the frog and monkey.

4. Not working: That is pretty self explanatory, and exactly what a vacation is all about.

5. Cruise Ship Game Show: I got picked to be on a trivia game show, with buzzers and all. I came in second place.

6. Para-sailing

Well, all good things must come to an end. Now it’s back to reality :-\

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

YouTube Tuesday: Dissection of "The Dougie"

This week's YouTube Tuesday comes to you via the Wall Street Journal. I found it oddly hilarious and cool that they did a piece of "The Dougie." It does seem to be the lastest dance sensation, and this Wall Street Journal journalist took the time to dissect the "Dougie" and comment on how it's sweeping the sports world.

Can you teach me how to Dougie? ;-)

Sunday, November 28, 2010

When Facebook Can Be Detrimental

When not in the correct frame of mind, Facebook has the ability to easily depress someone. If you aren’t feeling solid about life probably the worst thing you can do is browse Facebook. The thing about Facebook and other social network sites is that it is generally a snapshot of everything that is a great about someone else’s life. The photo uploads and status updates are the creme de la creme of your friends comings and goings. Comparing yourself to others has never been so easy as it is in this age of social networks lol.

While you can’t find a date, it seems like everyone is announcing new relationships statuses, weddings, and posting baby pictures... You have non-stop unfruitful auditions, while everyone else is posting production photos... Money is tight for you, while others are foursquaring from every retail store downtown....you get the picture.

I think any normal person can find themselves feeling inadequate when down on their luck, and feeling like everyone else is up on theirs. So what to do when you get that feeling?

Be Happy
Unless you’re into social networks for the number of “friends” and followers you can acquire the people who are doing well are your friends, people who you know. Be happy for them, congratulate them. Let their success fuel your fire to work harder to get what you want.

Count YOUR blessings
It always SEEMS like the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, but I guarantee if you stop and think of all your blessings, you’ll find that you have plenty that others could envy. It’s always easier to remember all the bad than it is to remember all the good. Take a second, and calibrate yourself to recall how good things really are for you.

Keep things in perspective
Keep in mind that people put their best feet forward on social profile sites. I’m not saying everyone is lying or making up great things about their lives, but keep in mind that you are only seeing the good side of their life, not the whole picture. They could be looking at your profile thinking you’ve got things better than them. Keep things in perspective.

Saturday, November 27, 2010

When Bigger is Better

This will be my niece's 3rd Christmas. My philosophy on gift giving thus far has always been "bigger is better." My reasoning is bigger gifts aren't easily lost, and the younger the child is, the more awe they get from big presents (as apposed to when they are tweens and want small things like iPods and such).

Year 1: Baby Ball Pit

Year 2: Sit n Spin Zebra

And this year: Disney Princess Talking Play kitchen, for which I camped out for.


Friday, November 26, 2010

Black Friday Extravaganza

So, I will start with Thanksgiving first: It was awesome. Started the day in the way I prefer to start it every year, watching the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade while hubby made breakfast. Towards the end of the parade I cleaned up and got ready for food making. My food came out great (see picture below). It was my first time making Thanksgiving dinner. On the menu: crescent rolls, turkey, collard greens, baked macaroni and cheese, stuffing, and roasted sweet potatoes.

After dinner the husband and I played a rousing game of Phase 10 (which I lost) then partook in some World of Warcraft for a couple hours. And then it was time...

I took a shower around 11:30 to prepare for our Black Friday Extravaganza. I know some of you followed my #blackfridaycampout tweets on my twitter. We waited in line at Target from about 12:15am (when we got there there was already a line) until 4am. The wait really wasn’t that bad, time passed quickly, it was only a *little* cold, and the freezing rain didn’t start until about 15 minutes before we went it in.

(don't I look excited? look at my eyes lol)

Our Black Friday shopping went almost seamlessly. We had a map, so we knew the plan. Go in, down the escalator, he’d swing left to pick up an electronic drum set for his nephew, I’d swing right to get the Disney Princess Play Kitchen for my niece, and we’d meet around at electronics to get an Xbox 360 Controller. We were in and out of the store before the last people in line even made it in!

Then after Target we swung over to Bed Bath & Beyond (who had no line, I kind of felt bad for them lol) and I got a Kurieg for like $65.

Then, we went home and went to bed lol. A successful 2010 Thanksgiving and Black Friday it was. Purchases pictured below:

(Disney Princess Talking Play Kitchen)

(Electronic drum set)

(The Keurig)


Wednesday, November 24, 2010

I am thankful for...

It is that time of year, the time when we list the things we are thankful for. Here's my list:

1. Having a wonderful husband
2. Having a wonderful family
3. Having wonderful friends
4. Being reconnected to my father and his side of the family via the magic of facebook
5. Chocolate
6. Having a job where I can be around what I love {art}
7. Having been in a wonderful production in the fall {Ladies in Waiting}
8. The continual blessings of God in my life
9. The Macy's Thanksgiving Day parade

Some days it is easy to let little trials and tribulations get us down. I hope to be able to look at this list when I'm having a bad day and remember that things aren't' so bad after all.

This will be my first year cooking Thanksgiving dinner, luckily I'm only cooking for myself and my husband so there isn't *that* much pressure on the day, but I'm excited.

On the menu: baked macaroni and cheese, stuffing, collard greens, roasted sweet potatoes, croissants, turkey and cookies :-)



Thursday, November 18, 2010

YouTube Tuesday: "Whip My Hair" - The Jimmy Fallon ballad

I LOL'd at this. Happy YouTube Tuesday (even though this is from NBC.com and not YouTube lol)


Wednesday, November 17, 2010

I will not be bitter

Bitter = harsh, hard to bear, stinging, resentful

I will not be bitter
Because while it may seem my glass is half empty the person with the full glass may have a glass full of …
I will not be bitter
Because I have no mistakes, only scenarios that will make for good interview fodder when my name is in lights
I will not be bitter
Because how they see me isn’t who I am, and who I am is who God has made me to be, a Queen
I will not be bitter
Because I need no validation outside of myself
I will not be bitter
Because the sweetness of my disposition is what sets me apart
I will not be bitter
Because the harsh and hard will crumble as I stand tall in the strength of kindness

Monday, November 15, 2010

The Diet Conversation

Oh my gosh I’m so hungry, but I’m over my allotted calories for this meal. :-\

I am stressed out by being hungry.

Is having a snack healthier than being stressed out by not having a snack?

Am I going to regret eating these toffee covered peanuts?

But eating the toffee covered peanuts will make me HAPPY!
It’s hard to eat a lean cuisine on a day like today...

My most common lunch at work is a lean cuisine, because of the mix of low calories and convenience. (My plan is to keep my calorie count down this month, so I don’t feel as bad next month when I’m on my cruise eating 24-7 lol. )

But there is something about a rough day, a long day, a tough day, a tiring day, etc. that makes salad or a lean cuisine the last thing you’d want to eat! Actually, even a really happy or exciting day makes you want something more exciting as a meal. Food is funny that way, it affects our mood, and our mood effects what we want to eat.

Friday, November 12, 2010

The Beauty of Woman

Hey Folks. I have started a tumblr to post videos, pictures, and words that I feel express the beauty of all things WOMAN. Check it out:


Sunday, November 7, 2010

My official review: Tyler Perry's "For Colored Girls"

This weekend I saw the film version of “For Colored Girls.” Most of you read my letter to Tyler Perry so you know where I stood before seeing the film.

I guess my blanket caveat is people who are not familiar with the play will probably love “For Colored Girls.” People who generally like Tyler Perry movies will probably love “For Colored Girls.”

You all should know that I don’t really fall into any of those categories :-\ I don’t consider myself elitist or anything since I was familiar with the play first, and wouldn’t call myself a big Tyler Perry fan, but I definitely think those two things inform my feeling on the movie. None of the parts I didn’t like about the movie had anything to do with the original play.

Let me give props first. The beginning sequence was beautiful. There was also a lot of beautifully cinematographed moments. The acting was also on par for the most part. I think Tyler Perry did do a good job of finding ways to connect the characters, since they aren’t directly connected in the play/poem.

O.k. now what I didn’t like. There is already SO much going on in the play, that the issues that were didn't seem to serve a purpose. The issue of being “down low” wasn’t touched in the play, and didn’t really need to be in the movie as such a huge plot point, in my opinion.

Speaking of which, there was definitely too much MEN in the movie. Now, granted, these were some FINE men, but the play has no male characters and the re-telling of the women's interactions with men without them being present just seems stronger to me.

I didn't like Whoopi's character or her portrayal at all, although I generally like Whoopi Goldberg as an actress. She didn't seem to serve the theme of womanhood or sisterhood AT ALL. I really don't know why she was there.

There are some really key lines in the play that seemed to be glossed over, or overpowered by seemingly bad direction. “I found God in myself, and I loved her fiercely” is probably THE line of the play, and it really had no emphasis in the movie.

I feel like people leave the theater feeling like being a woman = pain, heartbreak and sadness, and that is NOT what the original play leaves you with. I performed in the play and felt JOY throughout it. Yes, the situations are HEAVY, but it is also about the strength and joy of being a woman, and emphasis on sisterhood. The movie was just kinda...sad.

My scoring is as follows:

Words from the original play: 5 stars
Words Tyler Perry originated with his screen play: 2 stars
Cinematography: 5 stars
Direction: 2 stars
Story Coherence: 4 stars
Acting: 4 stars

That gives an average of: 3.5 Stars as my overall rating

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

I found myself crying at my desk today. I read the story of 11-year-old Shannon Tavarez who was starring as Young Nala in Lion King on Broadway. She died recently of leukemia.

This is Shannon:

She was never able to get a bone marrow match to treat her leukemia. From the article I read I learned that not only is it hard for minorities in general to find a bone marrow match when needed, but it is especially hard for people of mixed race to find a match. Shannon was African-American and Hispanic. There just aren’t a large number of African-American or mixed race bone marrow donors out there.

Bone marrow donations and transplants are something unfamiliar to me so I checked out marrow.org where I found this picture with the caption “Be her leap from hospital room to ballroom” :

Seeing two little African-American girls who want to perform and are plagued so young by a disease shot a pain through my heart. Not that I only care about little Black girls and not anyone else, but my own little cousin went through Hodgkin's lymphoma, and as a Black woman with performance aspirations those two pictures resonated with me.

So after getting myself together (and deciding to post about this) I looked up what goes into a bone marrow donation. I think we’ve all seen that infamous episode of House where Forman sticks a HUGE needle into a screaming little boy to get a bone marrow sample for the boy’s brother. I could see how something like that could be a deterrent to even thinking about being a bone marrow donor. Reading online I was surprised to see that it isn’t as heinous of a procedure as the episode suggested, and as people may think.

First of all. It only takes a mouth swab to see if you are compatible. If you are found as a match, to actually give your marrow you are put under anesthesia and marrow is taken from the bone through a needle, or more commonly, the cells needed are filtered through circulating blood in a procedure similar to donating blood or having a blood test that requires multiple injections the week prior to the procedure.

Hopefully knowing that you don’t have to have a needle stuck into your bone, and if you do, you are put under anesthesia will persuade people to look into how they can contribute as a bone marrow donor, or at least be registered with marrow.org in the event that they are a match to someone in need of a bone marrow to save their lives. If you register with the site they will send you a kit to do a mouth swab and you send it back to them. It’s that easy to be part of the database.

I will be taking the time to read through all the guidelines and information before I make the commitment, and I encourage others to do so as well.

If I am found to be a match down the road, it would take time out of my life, and cause some time of discomfort, but am I selfish enough to not trade a few weeks of time and discomfort on my part for someone else’s life?

Couldn't help but share this...

(via B.Hargette )

Friday, October 29, 2010

Muslims Wearing Things

I came across a great site today while reading Feminist Philosophers it's called "Muslims Wearing Things." It's a tumblr site created to showcase Muslims, in all and every kind of attire. There has been the recent Juan Williams "scandal" regarding a fear of Muslims in "Muslim Garb" at the airport, and plenty of other expressions of the same fear in the past. The creator of the tumblr wanted to show that there really is no "Muslim Garb" and hopefully show people who don't come in contact with Muslim people often, that they are unique, like any other group of people.

Here is one of the photos:

Caption (from the site): This is Ramez Al Mualla. He’s a Muslim proudly serving in the US Army. He’s dressed in garb… and he’s on an airplane.

Visit Muslims Wearing Things here

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Elementary my Dear Watson! (review of Sherlock, Season 1, BBC)

I must say, BBC is certainly keeping me entertained and engaged with their series. First I was blown away by the first season of Luther, starring the lovely and talented Idris Alba, then I was hit again with season one of Sherlock. BBC does big things in a small amount of time. Luther had only 6 episodes in it’s first season, and Sherlock had only three (at 90 minutes each).

The star, Benedict Cumberbatch, depicts Sherlock Holmes in a way I’ve never seen before. My immediate comparison was to Robert Downey Jr.’s recent Sherlock Holme’s performance. It took me a little while to get use to how snarky Cumberbatch was in the character. I’m use to a Sherlock Holmes that is unintentionally off-putting, where as BBC’s Sherlock is very forward in embarrassing and belittling people with his gift. He has the usual smarts of Sherlock Holmes, and is also a “smart Alec.”

Even with the new approach to the character there is still the classic violin playing, the villainous Moriarty and the quirky detective skills. I did enjoy the modernity in the use of technology in the series. iPhones are a big part of the plot, and you won’t catch an episode without multiple text message conversations. Dr. Watson is also a blogger.

The series also plays around with homosexuality a bit. After watching the whole season, at times I thought Sherlock Holmes was gay, or Watson was gay, or both.

I definitely give the first season of Sherlock 5 stars. I’m anticipating the next one.

P.S. - I am just a little sad that in both the recent Sherlock Holmes movie and in Sherlock the phrase “elementary my dear Watson!” is never said. :-\

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

YouTube Tuesday: The Most Ridiculous Edited-For-TV Film Lines

Today's YouTube Tuesday was found by my hubby on Gawker. In general, I think cursing/cussing should be used in limitation, but these scenes certainly don't have the same fire in their edited formats. Check it out:

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Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Wedding Cake and White Dresses

Yesterday was my one year marriage/wedding anniversary. The hubby and I ate year old cake for no reason other than it was tradition, so we were supposed to do it. But you know what? It was nice (not the cake, I probably should have wrapped it tighter lol). The experience was nice. Eating from a cake topper that we ate from a year before made us stop, and reflect. A lot can happen in a year, and time certainly flies, but just that small realization while looking at the cake was nice. We need those things in life that make us stop and remember/reflect. We’re thinking about buying a cupcake on every anniversary so we can freeze it and eat it a year later to offer that moment of reflection each year lol.

From what I’ve read up on it, apparently the the tradition was considered good luck and the couple was to save a bit of wedding cake to celebrate a baby’s arrival into the family during the first year of marriage. The cake would be eaten at the wedding and at the new child’s christening. Back in the day original wedding cakes were loaves of bread broken over the bride’s head to promote fertility.

Hmm... well no children around here for a little while lol. But it was nice to partake in this random tradition, and I am now happy to get that space back in my freezer.

Also while I was googling wedding lore I came across the fact that wedding dresses were not always white traditionally. In ancient times brides wore bright colored wedding dresses to signify their joy. White for western brides didn't become fashionable until the 19th century when Queen Victoria wore it at her wedding to signify her status.


Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Helping = Maturity?

I have found myself on many occasions fortunate enough to have people willing to make exceptions for me; bend rules to afford an opportunity to me, create positions so that I could work, cash in debts on my behalf. I now find myself almost aching to do the same thing for others, but don’t have the means. There are so many people I would like to help with employment and resources, but I am no where near in a position to do so. That irks me! So many people have given me the gift of assistance that I want to give it back to others. For right now I’ll do what I can. Maybe I can’t give them money, but I’ll volunteer for them. Maybe I can’t hook them up with a job but I’ll help them with a resume, or list myself as a reference. I do think that my wanting to help people like others have helped me is a sign of growing up. I think there are definitely stages of thankfulness and willingness to help that correlate to how much a person has grown.

Infancy - Give me! Give me!
This is the stage at which a person believes they are entitled to whatever they want, and all the help they want, not because of anything they have done, just because...

Toddler - I did good, where is my reward?
This is the stage at which a person does good things, but expects to be rewarded each and every time they do something.

Childhood - I’ve done good. Oh, you’d like to reward me? Thanks!
This is the stage at which a person works hard because they know they should, and is appreciative of all assistance and reward they receive.

Teenager - Thank you for all the help. Who can I help?
This is the stage where a person has received help, appreciates it, and wants to help others, but doesn’t quite have the resources.

Adult - I’m here to help, who needs it?
This is the stage where a person has received help, appreciated it, and is now helping others.

Senior - Who’s up next?
This is the stage where a person has received help, appreciated it, has helped others, and now wants to know who they can prepare to help others once they are gone.

I think as we get older the world becomes less and less about US, and more about what we can be to other people, and the legacy we can leave behind when we are gone.

Do you think that willingness to help and appreciation of help coincide with a person’s maturity as a person?

YouTube Tuesday: SNICKERS

I was craving Snickers one afternoon...

Sidebar: Often after I eat a Lean Cuisine meal I have an immediate craving for chocolate. I feel like since my whole lunch consisted of 220 calories I am entitled to something great, like a Snickers bar.
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... and my co-worker sent me this video. I though I'd share it for this week's YouTube Tuesday. I find it funny, yet creepy. Enjoy.


Sunday, October 10, 2010


Tonight I closed my most recent show, "Ladies in Waiting." From the audition to closing night it was definitely an awesome experience. I feel so blessed to have been a part of such an awesome show with such an awesome cast and crew.

I have historically been blessed with awesome casts. With few exceptions I always find my casts to be a family, a group of people that start as castmates and end as family. That is truly a blessing in a world where it is easy for people to get a big head or become "divas."

Hugely talented and humble hearts, those are the people that I love.

Cast of "Ladies in Waiting"


Tuesday, October 5, 2010

There is no such thing as high standards

There is no such thing as high standards

I say that because while people may initially have high and perhaps unmeetable standards for a mate, when real love comes into the equation, all that is washed away.

There is nothing wrong with having high standards, but I find that once a person falls in love they are willing to break their “rules” for that person. It isn’t that the standards are being lowered, but that the standards don’t matter as much because of what that person is in their life.

People often ask “How do you know when you’ve fallen in love?” I think this may be part of recognizing it. If you have sworn since age 14 you would never date a man/woman who {insert something you dislike}, but find that thing isn’t very important in the grand scheme of a truly loving relationship, then you are probably in love.

When you find the right person, you won’t try to fit them into the box you’ve built for the perfect woman/man, you’ll find that they are the perfect person FOR YOU and that is all that will matter.

Related post: being the perfect wife.

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Saturday, October 2, 2010

Let go of the clocks

This morning I slept until about 10am because my cell phone was dead so I couldn't look at that time. As a result, I slept until I felt well rested. Normally, even on the weekends I'll force myself to get up around 9am, checking the time sporadically through the early morning. Seeing time go by I'm always thinking "I'm burning daylight" so I force myself out of bed, at times still sleepy.

But why? Why force myself to get up when I am still sleepy if I don't have to?

Time is a dictator in our lives. We're so caught up in biological clocks, career clocks, education clocks, etc. that sometimes we ignore what we really want or need as a result of conforming to these timetables.

In some instances we've got to let the clocks go. Don't let some societal standard of the right time, or the right amount of time dictate how you live your life. If you need more time for something, take it, and if you are ready ahead of society's schedule, do what you know you can do.

Happy Saturday :-D

Friday, October 1, 2010

Funny or Die Friday: Mike Tyson does "Every Little Step"

Now, I usually post videos on Tuesdays for my YouTube Tuesday series, but I could not wait that long to post this hilariousness. Also, this is from Funny or Die, not YouTube, which makes this an impromptu "Funny or Die Friday." I bring you Wayne Brady and Mike Tyson doing Bobby Brown's "Every Little Step." Bobby even makes a cameo.

I've decided that the next time I am sad, I am going to look at this video, and watch Mike Tyson dance, and it will be impossible for me to stay in a bad mood lol.


Thursday, September 30, 2010

Discipline Your Mouth

Discipline your mouth so that it does not betray your heart.

The power or words is incredible. When you speak something, you bring it into existence and put it into the universe for others to hear, dissect and take in. Words can help you and be affirmations in your life or they can bring you down.

I find this specifically important to a person who is trying to lose weight or quit smoking. Saying "I need a cigarette" brings forth that thought to manifest in the air and come to fruition.

The same can be said about how we speak of other people. Perhaps we are fond of someone but find ourselves talking them down when in the company of bad mouthers. Don't let the company of bad people make you speak about someone in way that doesn't reflect your heart. Now, if you just have a bad heart that is a whole other blog post. :-)

Try to always keep in mind that what you speak out of your mouth is a direct reflection to other people of your heart's intent. Try to only speak that which correlates with the person you are, or more importantly, the person you wish to be.

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

YouTube Tuesday: Be-Weave Hair Salon

Welcome to this week's edition of YouTube Tuesday. I came across this video over at College Curlies. I found this hilarious.

Complete LOL @ "real synthetic hair."

The woman, Laurabellbundy, has a couple of different videos making (good) fun of various types of people.

Monday, September 20, 2010

The thing about mistakes

The thing about mistakes is that the worst part isn't the actual mistake. We all make mistakes but it is what happens after the mistake that really counts.

Acknowledge the mistake. If you can't admit you were wrong when you know inside you are wrong this makes the mistake deeper than it needs to be. You'll never get over it and move on if you don't admit fault.

Don't repeat the mistake. Making the same mistake 3, 4, or 5 times just makes you insane. Only a crazy person does the same thing over and over hoping for a different result.

This is especially true when it comes to internal mistakes, bad decisions that no one else knows about. It is often the hardest to forgive ourselves.

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

YouTube Tuesday: Watermelon to the face

It is YouTube Tuesday! This week's video is ...crazy, that is the best way I can put it. It's a scene from the Amazing Race where a competition goes very wrong for one of the contestants and they get smacked, hard core, in the face with a WATERMELON.

I'd also like to point out that after a watermelon headshot like this, I'd dare my partner to tell me I had to keep going, is she nuts?!


Thursday, September 9, 2010

Dear Tyler Perry,

Dear Tyler Perry,

We need to chat for a second. On November 5th you will have a movie coming out based on something very close to my heart: Ntozake Shange’s stageplay “For Color’d Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Enuf.” I’m scared Tyler, real scared, because I don’t want you to mess this up.

For reasons that could go in another letter, more people know who Medea is than they know Ntozake Shange. You are taking an opportunity to bring this phenomenal story to the big screen and the main stream. I hope you don’t mess this up.

As far as casting goes, you’ve got a FIRE cast. If this movie is bad, I have to say I will only be able to blame you. You mean well Tyler, but you have made great actors look not so great in the past. These women are great, I hope you showcase them as such: Whoopi Goldberg, Anika Noni Rose, Phylicia Rashad, Kerry Washington, Janet Jackson, Thandie Newton, Loretta Devine, Kimberly Elise, Macy Gray, and Tessa Thompson. I do notice that there are more women listed here than are actually characters in the play, but I trust that you have crafted your characters wisely, I hope.

Now, the movie is coming out in November, so production is most likely all wrapped up by now, but I do have a few requests/hopes on the film:

No awkward Christian messages:
Now, I’m a Christian, so I’ve obviously got nothing against Christianity. But, from your movies from the past that I have seen, you do a really bad job of seamlessly weaving in a Christian theme or message into your stories. You try, but it just comes off awkward. And in this particular case you shouldn’t really be bringing in any messages that aren’t already in the story, just focus on the aspects of womanhood that it presents. If you take out the line “I found God in myself, and I loved her, fiercely,” we’ll probably have to fight.

Speaking of womanhood -

No gratuitous male presence:
There are no men in the play, so my preference would be to not see any men in the movie, it’s really not about them. Now from the cast list I already see that you’ve recruited Michael Ealy, Hill Harper, Khalil Kain, Omari Hardwick and Richard Lawson. I guess I should just thank the Lord that Shemar Moore isn’t in it. I hope these men have a legitimate role in the movie and aren’t just eye candy strewn about like the usual light skinned light eyed men in your films.

Don’t do me wrong Tyler,



Monday, September 6, 2010

Why did I go natural?

I was asked on formspring: Why did you go natural?

It probably started with the African American studies classes I took towards the end of my college career. From the classes I came into a consciousness of how deep hair hatred runs in the Black community. {Many women straighten their hair to conform to a standard of beauty that is not innately their own. Little Black girls grow up thinking that a relaxer is what they are SUPPOSE to do with their hair. Most don’t realize until adulthood that there is an option to not chemically alter their hair.}
It can easily be said that relaxing hair is a matter of preference, but the only way I could see to tell if I was conforming or preferring was to let the relaxer go.

Now that I am about 2 and a half years natural I love my hair, more than I ever loved it relaxed, and I feel like my hair is a perfect representation of ME. I also feel like I haven’t so much “gone natural” as I have just been myself. I live with my hair the way it grows out of my head, at this point, it seems like a simple decision.
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